Why do we settle for “crumbs” in our relationships?
Sometimes we find ourselves in a relationship with somebody we didn’t even like much in the beginning, yet all of a sudden we’re under their “spell,” desperate for any attention they throw our way.
Or, maybe we pursue them for months, win them, ….and then run from them!
Why is it we sit under “tables of desperation,” waiting for the crumbs to fall? Why do we to fool ourselves that each crumb is far more significant than it is, whilst knowing deep down that our loved ones couldn’t care less about us? Answer: We don’t want to believe they don’t care because this means we’re worthless in our minds.
Other times, our relationships begin well enough, but somewhere along the way—slowly and subtly—our sense of self becomes eroded as we’re told we’re worthless. In the beginning, we put up a fight, use logic and reason, but eventually we...
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The less you have in every area of your life; possessions, overwhelming lists of things ‘to do’, boring tasks, your appointment book, negative energy, the easier it’s all going to be for you.
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It seems PANIC, OVERWHELM, TRAUMA and SHUT DOWN can run in and take a grip. Allow time to breathe and reset.
So that it doesn’t become overwhelming (leaving you to lose focus or shut down)
Many adults with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder are reticent to take meds.
Most major books* on ADHD are written by brilliant, kind, thoughtful Doctors who have ADHD themselves or are married to someone who has it and say meds can be invaluable, yet the doctors acknowledge that meds only a part of the story; the rest is lifestyle.
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A difference for sure, so maybe we could call it Attention Difference, often with huge splash of hyperactivity.
Attention is often low on the radar, but is it really? Or are they super aware of everything and just unable to focus? Are they often actually able to see the big picture, (or at least a lot of it), but struggle with details and minutiae?
On the other hand, they’ll often get lost with an intensity on some projects and tasks. There are 2 reasons for this;
The healthy reason is when their brilliance pours in. It’s healthy so long as they don’t lose themselves in this intensity for too long, and are encouraged to infuse it with balance.
The less healthy reason for getting lost in intensity is escapism. Escapism from overwhelm, outside stimuli, and their own busy mind. In this case an ability to calm, ground and focus...
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“Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty than the person who has nothing to eat.” —Mother Teresa
We’re told that, because we have food to eat and a roof over our heads, that we have no right to “feel sorry for ourselves.” Not when we have so much and “there are people starving to death in Africa.” So often we don’t feel we have a right to straighten out our crushed spirits because we don’t have a right to them in the first place.
When we’re told that we must be all that we can be, but—at the same time—we have no right to find ourselves, it makes for one almighty conflict.
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Autism and ADHD aren't a Death Sentence... In Fact, They're quite the opposite.
The way home to what? To a part of ourselves we spend our lives searching for. They aren’t here to people please, or to follow society’s norms. They see life in a whole different way.
We see more kinds of brilliance in Autism and ADHD than in any other area of life. It’s where savantism, genius, hyper focus, and world change lives. In academics, the arts, and often also in an innate understanding of humanity.
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Do your circumstances determine your mission?
As children, why do we end up in the big mansion or the filthy crack den? The fights, or the love? Education or none? Time to learn the piano or simply tend the land? For some reason, we’re born into our particular family, our parents, society, and carers.
There are so many factors we’re born into, it can seem ludicrous to consider the dynamics between our parents, how much time anyone has for us, and where we fit in.
Here’s a secret, something which can take years to learn: Parents aren’t really small Gods at all, they’re simply grown up kids themselves, often still lost and struggling. Chances are, they’re overwhelmed by their own survival.
Eventually, this is very liberating…but not real helpful when you’re a kid.
It’s almost as if before we arrive on earth, we know the deal, that we have a mission, something to accomplish while we’re on the planet....