Why do we settle for “crumbs” in our relationships?
Sometimes we find ourselves in a relationship with somebody we didn’t even like much in the beginning, yet all of a sudden we’re under their “spell,” desperate for any attention they throw our way.
Or, maybe we pursue them for months, win them, ….and then run from them!
Why is it we sit under “tables of desperation,” waiting for the crumbs to fall? Why do we to fool ourselves that each crumb is far more significant than it is, whilst knowing deep down that our loved ones couldn’t care less about us? Answer: We don’t want to believe they don’t care because this means we’re worthless in our minds.
Other times, our relationships begin well enough, but somewhere along the way—slowly and subtly—our sense of self becomes eroded as we’re told we’re worthless. In the beginning, we put up a fight, use logic and reason, but eventually we...
by Skye Baloo
“Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty than the person who has nothing to eat.” —Mother Teresa
We’re told that, because we have food to eat and a roof over our heads, that we have no right to “feel sorry for ourselves.” Not when we have so much and “there are people starving to death in Africa.” So often we don’t feel we have a right to straighten out our crushed spirits because we don’t have a right to them in the first place.
When we’re told that we must be all that we can be, but—at the same time—we have no right to find ourselves, it makes for one almighty conflict.
TO LEARN HOW TO BE YOU!